Summary: Parenting
In this chapter, the four main parenting styles were described. With parenting, there are four main styles that most children experience; authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and neglectful. These parenting styles can be described using the chart below, showing demandingness as an arrow going up and responsiveness as an arrow going to the right. Authoritative is the ideal parenting style, with its responsiveness high and its demandingness or expectations also high. Kids who are raised with this parenting style tend to achieve higher levels of success with grades and their social life. With a neglectful parent, the responsiveness is very low and so is the demandingness. This means a child gets either rare or no attention along with the parents having no expectations in the child at all. These children are the ones who will most likely end up with a criminal record and low grades. Authoritarian parents are often the ones who demand a lot from their children but are not there for moral support. They may expect perfect grades, but are not there to help their children achieve them. Lastly, the permissive parenting style. Permissive parents are more like friends than they are parents. They are there for their children emotionally, but do not expect anything from them are more likely not to care if their children do not achieve high test scores or act out. Most children with permissive parents are free to do as they like and will usually end up in trouble due to the fact that their parents are not there to act as a parent. These are the main four parenting styles that children may or may not grow up with. (Hart, 2017)
Parenting and My Development
Growing up I experienced many different parenting styles. My parents were divorce so I got to experience the authoritative parent and also the neglectful parent. But, because of how I was raised, I grew up to be the person I am today and I wouldn’t change that. My dad was neglectful because he did not care to talk to us or not. My brother and I saw him every other weekend but we just sat in our own separate rooms and watched tv. My mom was authoritative and I am lucky to have had that. She always expected me to get good grades and stay out of trouble so that’s what I did and I became resilient and clever. I would not be half the person I am today without the way I was parented.
Parenting and My Work
With my intended profession I will be working with young children and parents daily. The children will have some kind of disability so I need to be observant on how their parents are treating them and be mindful on how that is affecting them and their development. I will be working with children one-on-one so I will also need use these parenting styles to make the child feel as comfortable as they can. For example, I will be observant on how the child is currently parented and if it is adequate and enough to make the child feel safe and content I will mimic that style so they do not feel scared or uncomfortable. These styles are also important to know in my intended profession because if I see a child that is not being treated correctly or physically cared for, I will report it and try to get them in a better situation.
Picture Reference: (Hart, 2017)
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